Between a rock and a hard place

Should we break up or get counseling?

Authors

  • Nanna Fensman Lassen
  • Hanne Nørr Fentz
  • Klaus Nielsen
  • Tea Trillingsgaard

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.7146/pl.v46i2.165716

Keywords:

online self-help, OurRelationship, couple interventions, Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy, help-seeking, e-health, internet-based self-help

Abstract

The purpose of this article is to research the experiences of couples participating in online counselling with a primary focus on strengths and limitations of said program.

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Published

2025-12-30

How to Cite

Lassen, N. F., Fentz, H. N., Nielsen, K., & Trillingsgaard, T. (2025). Between a rock and a hard place: Should we break up or get counseling?. Psyke & Logos, 46(2), 155–185. https://doi.org/10.7146/pl.v46i2.165716

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Vol. 46 No. 2 (2025): Places

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Under stregen

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