“Kan da se træningen går godt, for daamn ser du godt ud”

En interaktionsanalyse af komplimenter på datingappen Tinder


  • Thrine Victoria Jarnot Meline University of Southern Denmark


Conversation Analysis, politeness theory, maxims of communication, compliments, Tinder


This paper examines compliments and responses to compliments on Tinder in a Danish context. The results are based on 149 conversations from 2020 to 2022, which I have received from six users. The most frequent topic for compliments is ‘appearance’, the second most is ‘profession’, and the least frequent are ‘possession’ and ‘ability’. I also found that the ‘piropos’, i.e. sexually charged compliments, weren’t well received. Men give more compliments than women, as they’re giving approx. 81 % of the compliments. The most common compliment for both sexes are related to appearance, and women compliment ‘personality’ more than men. The responses to the compliments are mostly ‘evasion’, specifically ‘legitimate evasion’, such as the compliment being embedded in a question. The second most frequent response type is ‘acceptance’, whereas ‘rejection’ almost never occurs. These results differ from studies of compliments in other languages than Danish, where evasion doesn’t occur as much. This could point to a specific complimenting behavior in a Danish context. I found no statistical significance between the sexes regarding compliment responses. I also examined and enlightened how conversation participants use compliments to maintain or enhance their own or others’ face, and how they are used to establish “common ground” and build intimacy.

Author Biography

Thrine Victoria Jarnot Meline, University of Southern Denmark

T.V.J. Meline graduated as cand.mag. in Danish at the University of Southern Denmark in the summer of 2023. Her fields of interest are historical, functional and sociolinguistics, and social semiotics. She has been part of projects related to swear words, gender inclusive pronouns, corona language, language in the 18th century and questions and answers.


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How to Cite

Meline, T. V. J. (2024). “Kan da se træningen går godt, for daamn ser du godt ud”: En interaktionsanalyse af komplimenter på datingappen Tinder. Journal of Language Works - Sprogvidenskabeligt Studentertidsskrift, 9(1), 5–22. Retrieved from https://tidsskrift.dk/lwo/article/view/146641